So, I have been off this blog for a while. I had that relationship breakdown with my ex-boyfriend and I really wasn’t in a great place. I am much better now and have so much to say. I am not going to pretend that the last few months have been easy because they haven’t. Work, life, relationships have been tough.
I have however, been dating. It has taught me a lot about myself and things which maybe I need to work on after having been in a long-term relationship but it has also shown me how awful people can be. I downloaded Tinder quickly after becoming single and have various conversations on there. I have however, met three guys in person and this is what happened.
- Met for a drink in London, he made it clear that he was going away that week for 2 months but if we got on we could keep in touch. The date was super quick but we did get on and we did keep in touch…. for a while. I guess him being away was hard when you don’t actually know someone. He is however, back in London now and a second date is on the cards. I am not sure whether this will go anywhere but he seems like a nice guy.
- I was seeing this guy for a couple of weeks, I stayed over his a few times but it was clear that he wasn’t over his ex or had some other issues. He lost his job and said that he wasn’t in a good place so we stopped talking. A month later he did actually text me and see if I fancied a catch up over a coffee but I think the spark has really gone now. I think he used me a bit and I don’t think even a coffee would make me see otherwise, not yet anyway. He also had some kind of issue with exercise and eating which isn’t great for my personality.
- The third guy I was seeing for a month-ish and I think when he called it off it hurt the most. We did get on really well and I felt that he was keen for something more although I wasn’t really going to push for the same, happy to take things slow. We went on a few dates and he was staying over almost every other night. I then ended up being rushed into hospital and staying four nights. He still text me every day and on Saturday, we made plans for Sunday, relaxed Christmas shopping etc. He then snapped what he was looking at for my birthday [as it is actually today] he went to a gig that night, text me a bit and even said ‘goodnight beautiful’. Sunday morning I was getting ready and received a text out of the blue cancelling our plans and saying that he wasn’t ready for a relationship. I was completely shocked as it was him making all the plans etc. It hurt. It hurt a lot and therefore, the no contact rule kind of didn’t work and I did send a couple of texts which he isn’t going to ever reply too. Monday night he sent me a snapchat asking if I was okay and saying sorry again. He didn’t reply after that and has now deleted me off snapchat. I have no idea what could have changed overnight nor how I could have believed everything he said. I think that is what I am struggling with the most – the lack of closure. I have decided to delete his number so I can no longer see when he is online and of course, I know I am better than that and deserve so much more. He hasn’t even text me today to wish me a happy birthday. I just can’t help but think that this may be a repetative thing with online dating but at 27 it is not easy to meet people.
Have you had any luck with online dating?
Love, Minnie x